Comfort Food

Should a relationship be comfort food? I feel like that is what is going through my head right now. Should you get into a relationship (or even consider it) because it just seems easier - because you get along well or because you know there is something between you two - definite friendship, perhaps more, but defiinte friendship? If you find someone who you like, someone you feel close to, that you can lean on for support, and someone you can laugh with, then is that everything you need? Is it being greedy to feel like holding out for more? And what if there is no 'more' to a relationship - a good one - that what you already have?
If a relationship is comfort food, what would your relationship style be? Potatoes and gravy are all good and fine; makes you feel warm and full and sated, but I want that extra something that makes me feel loved up. Maybe I am the curry lover of the comfort food world. I want someone who wants to be with me - not because it is easy or because it is the right thing to do - but because I genuinely am someone they can't stop thinking about. Because they want to spend as much time with me as they can and if it means giving up the night out at the pub to do so, then they could not be happier. Because it means a night in with me.

I don't want to feel like the last thought or the responsibility. I don't want to be the thing that gets slotted in- in between the football match and the dinner with friends. I don't want someone who is just there when it is convenient to them or nothing better is happening. I have done that - I have been in the relationship where I kept giving and giving and giving and all I ever got in return was a 'thank you' or 'how sweet' but nothing more. Is it wrong to expect more? That if I am giving my all, I at least get the same in return.
I keep thinking that I just don't want to fall for someone again like that. I don't want to be someone's girl they settled for, I want to be the girl that someone can't live without. And if that makes me selfish, so be it. I want passion and I want romance and I want so many other things I have not found just yet - at least, if I found them, I have not seen them yet. And I don't want to choose to settle either because it is easier. Not when I know it is out there, even if I have not found it yet, and not when I know that I deserve more - that life has to hold more than this for me.